This morning, I had a group call with my brilliant coach and the members of a high-level mastermind I am a part of. I had to wake up at 4:30 am for the call and I have a massive cold sore (read: my lip is 5 times bigger than usual) that is making me feel quite tired, edgy and flat.
The question I had to ask was in an area that brought up a lot of fear for me. Remember this is a very high-level group of people, so I was feeling quite intimidated.
Afterwards, as I was analyzing the whole situation (I am an over thinker) I realized the core feeling was that I felt a bit inferior.
So, I tracked back this feeling, and there it was staring me right in the face: my feelings of not fitting in, feeling inappropriate, and not good enough. I know it comes from my childhood. You might have heard my story before. I grew up feeling like this for a long time. But now, I understand that every single fear or doubt I have today comes from my childhood.
So, what did I do? I used my own coaching on myself… I had a conversation with myself and my inner little girl as if I was my client. This fear that was bubbling up, was affecting how I was showing up in my mastermind group, and in my business and my life in the last few days.
It was great having the opportunity to let the fear just be and to question it. To identify where it was coming from and to apply my own techniques to come back quickly into a place of more confidence and happiness within my own skin and who I am. So that instead of sitting in fear, doubt and self-pity I could move into a more empowered place.
That is why I love the tools I teach so much, because the image we hold of ourselves: self-image, affects every single area of our lives.
It was because of the disconnection from my self-image while I was growing up and as a young adult that I made very disempowering decisions in relationships and in life in general.
We tend to go around life with a lot of intellectual knowledge but very little knowledge and tools about how to handle difficult situations, fear, lack of confidence, fear of judgment, and how to live a fulfilled and happy life.
And it is through my personal experience of overcoming my lack of confidence in many areas, that I learned all of this and now I teach it.
I always had an 'intellectual' confidence, but I used to question all my decisions, I doubted if I could have an awesome life, an awesome partner and more of the things I loved...
Well, the answer is hell YES! We can have it all. We can be fully happy.
We are not meant to be super busy women, juggling all the responsibilities and appearing to be perfectly happy just because you have the ‘job’, the ‘husband’ or the ‘kids’.
There is so much more to life than living on autopilot and living through the motions of our responsibilities.
You have to stop pretending that you are more confident than you actually are ;) You might be limiting how you dream, you might be dishonest about your needs or doing only things that don’t really challenge you anymore.
Dreaming small is ripping you off! Limiting your dreams is limiting your life!
Are you looking to reinvent yourself? To spend time discovering who you are and ensuring your outer appearance expresses that?
Looking at changing how you are showing up in life and feeling ready to create ‘more’ happiness and success?
This is the work I am deeply passionate about!!
Helping you emerge out of your shell. Facilitating the process of you stepping into your power, fully. Sharing who you are in an authentic way at home and at work. Communicating with ease, being more magnetic, looking amazing and feeling totally in love with all of you.
So many areas of your life will change for the better and the impact will permeate every area of your life. My clients say it best: ‘I feel alive and my passion for life is back.’, ‘I don’t even recognize myself and my new levels of confidence.‘, ‘My relationship with my husband has completely changed.’, ‘I got the job of my dreams.’, ‘My income has doubled in the last month.’.. and all of these just because they have got back in touch with who they are and how they are showing up in life!
Does this sound like what you need to move forward in a positive way? Let’s talk
To you, feeling your best!
Are you a Women in Perth?
Are you wanting to show up in the world proudly and confidently, dressing and looking in a way that feels authentically you and being in your dream job?
Imagine aligning your image, personality and all of who you are, to create impact wherever you go.
Imagine feeling more confident in your own skin and being listened to and respected...
You are invited to attend my 3-hour Confident Image workshop
I love it when women who have attended the workshop tell me how much more confident they are feeling and how authentic they feel about their image!
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Alba Gomez is an image and personal brand coach, keynote speaker, first impressions specialist and professional image consultant.
Born in Colombia and based in Australia, she travels nationally and internationally for speaking, executive coaching, consulting and training.
Alba works with individuals and small groups right through to large corporations. She brings her client’s image into line with their personal and professional roles, giving them the clarity and confidence to look and feel their best. Alba uses a unique, results-orientated approach, drawing on her 14 years of experience with systems and processes as an engineer.