Qualities such as approachability, presence, humility, inspiring and positivity are common to those people we really enjoy talking to.
These qualities describe people who are high in emotional intelligence (EQ).
Studies show that people who possess these skills aren’t just highly likeable, they outperform those who don’t by a large margin. 90% of top performers have high EQs, people with high EQs make $29,000 more annually and are in general, happier.
Let’s get into some simple tips to help you raise your EQ and become more likeable:
Be genuine. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. Likeable people know who they are. They are confident enough to be comfortable in their own skin. It is not about perfection is about realness.
Use positive body language. Be aware of your facial expressions and posture. Don’t lean on things, don’t cross your arms. Use an enthusiastic tone of voice, maintain eye contact and be present in the conversation.
Leave a strong first impression. Research shows most people decide whether or not they like you within the first 3 seconds of meeting you. They then spend the rest of the conversation internally justifying their initial reaction. This may sound terrifying, but by knowing this you can take advantage of it to make huge gains in your likeability. Watch your body language, clothes and tone of your voice in the first few seconds of talking to somebody.
Smile more. It not only makes you look more attractive and younger but it will make the other person respond the same way. It is the easiest way to connect with others.
Ask thoughtful questions. The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is that they are so focused on what they’re going to say next or what the other person is thinking that they fail to hear what is being said. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions and listening attentively.
Be consistent. Few things make you more unlikeable than when you’re all over the place and are a different person depending on your mood. To be consistent you must make sure that you are being the real you on the phone, in email and in person.
Be passionate. People gravitate toward those who are passionate. It is contagious and it is a better way to live your life.
Likeable people are unique and interesting. They bring out the best in everyone around them and generally seem to have the most fun. They are remembered and trusted.
Isn't that the best way of living and creating connections?
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Have a fantastic week!
Alba Gomez is an image and personal brand coach, keynote speaker, first impressions specialist and professional image consultant.
Born in Colombia and based in Australia, she travels nationally and internationally for speaking, executive coaching, consulting and training.
Alba works with individuals and small groups right through to large corporations. She brings her client’s image into line with their personal and professional roles, giving them the clarity and confidence to look and feel their best. Alba uses a unique, results-orientated approach, drawing on her 14 years of experience with systems and processes as an engineer.