You think showing up online either on Instagram or LinkedIn is what you should be doing, but you don't know how to even get started.
When I met Clara she was very upset because she has been overlooked for a promotion...AGAIN!
She knew she was doing a great job, had been a long time with the same company yet she wasn't given the position she knew she deserved.
As an engineer and having a very logical brain, I love understanding the science and the 'how' behind everything. But I have also learned that understanding and even mastering our emotions is way more important than what we know intellectually and all the titles we hold.
When we develop our ability to strengthen our brain and increase our levels of self-awareness and as we do with our muscles, we have a higher chance to achieve the things we want.
You might have been feeling that it is the time to push your boundaries, get out of your own way and find the courage to be seen, heard and recognised.
But you need clarity and to know exactly what the next steps are to get you from where you are now to that place.
Throughout my life, I always have had a battle with wondering if I am good enough.
Growing up with my messy hair, braces and the thickest of glasses, was, let's say challenging.
As a teenager, I became obsessed with learning how to do my makeup to ‘fix me’ so I could look beautiful.
I have always been a driven woman. To be honest, always a bit dissatisfied with where I am at the moment and wanting more out of life.
It wasn't until I was 30 years old that I ever asked myself what is truly important to me.
I never questioned the way I was living my life or how I spent my time. I didn't even sit for a second to check if I was happy with how my personal and professional life was going.
Imagine you have had one of those days when you are feeling extremely tired and uninspired. You arrive home ready to throw yourself on the couch or your bed to watch some Netflix. Your partner is all excited talking to you but you don’t even have the energy to listen.
But then you just check your lotto ticket and you find out you just won 10 million dollars…
You wake up in the morning, grab your phone, check your email and social media. Drag yourself to the kitchen to grab a cup of coffee or tea. Go back to your bedroom, get ready, prepare breakfast, go to work, have lunch, work a bit more, feel exhausted all day, drive back home or close for the day, prepare dinner, watch some tv, check your phone again, do a few more things around the house, then go to sleep.
Not being accepted is one of the biggest needs all of us humans have.
We end up going through life editing who we are and how we show up in order to be seen, accepted and loved by those around us.
Are you frustrated because you are stuck in the same situation for a while? It can be in a relationship, a job, the same disempowering feeling?...
It was during a coffee catch-up when Alice, with an embarrassed face, said to me: Why don't I feel I can be myself at work?
Most people say no...
This is the answer I get when I ask my clients if they feel they are showing up as the most confident version of themselves.
When I was at university in my first year, I was very surprised to hear from one of my friends that her friends thought I was unfriendly.
If you have met me, you know I am all smiles ;) and very warm. I was shocked, how could they think that.
Many clients have shared with me: 'Shouldn't my results and hard work be enough to be offered the promotion or opportunity I've been waiting for?' Unfortunately, the answer is NO!
The constant second-guessing myself, wondering if I was good enough, the feeling of not fitting in, feeling invisible and unheard are all way too familiar feelings for me.
Yes, one of the biggest challenges in my life has been with my confidence.
As painful as it is, I had to admit to myself that I felt like a complete failure in 2021. The last year was a very challenging one for me, especially emotionally.
We all know the end of the year is a great time to reflect on the year that was and set up goals for the year ahead.
When I was very young, my mum taught me this simple ritual and I have been doing it for many years.
In 2018, I went to Sydney for an interview at Studio10. It was a very exciting experience, little me flying to Sydney for the day to go live in a morning show in Australia.
Growing up, I exhibited a very strong masculine energy - the energy that loves being in control and thrives on getting results. It’s all about efficiency and getting things done. My engineering career probably emphasized this part of me even more.